There’s a book I love called the The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson.
In it he talks about the importance of doing things everyday that move you forward on your path to your goal. They don’t have to be huge, in fact it is the little things done with consistency over time that make the biggest difference.
As he says, they are “easy to do, and just as easy not to do.” Success is a daily practice. I know that sometimes it can feel challenging and, it is in those moments when we are most challenged, that the daily practices are most important.
When an unexpected obstacle shows up or there is a massive loss or big transition, it can be tempting to fall away from our daily routines and commitments.
We can even use those moments as reasons or excuses not to do what we know is in our best interest. It is exactly in those times, that recommitting and reconnecting to our bigger purpose and the bigger why is crucial.
As I go through my own time of transition with the loss of my dad, I can attest to it. There have been days when I “just don’t feel like it”. But I will tell you that it is especially on those days that getting my workout in or doing that daily meditation have been my saving grace.
Being gentle with yourself is important and you can do that and still stay consistent when you connect to that bigger reason why what you are doing matters to you.
Everyday will be different, sometimes you will take massive action, sometimes it will be a step. But no matter how big or small the action is, it adds up over time.
Acknowledge yourself for staying in the game and trust that your focus, patience and perseverance will pay off.
As Jim Morrison wrote, “No one gets out of here alive.” You’ve got one life, and it’s short. Enjoy it. It is possible to take something seriously, be focussed, and still inject some fun and humor into it.
I share this with you in the spirit of total transparency because I realized that I haven’t been having enough fun. I have been super focussed and disciplined (both good things to be) and somewhere in there, I started taking things way too seriously and forgot to laugh and enjoy the process.
Given that fun is a super high value of mine in just about every area of my life, I knew that had to change and fast! So, I asked myself 2 things.
1. How can create a little more time and space to let my hair down and have fun?
2. How can I bring an element of fun into everything I do whether I love it or it’s just something that has to get done?
Now, I don’t have a lot of time, so I had to get creative. A short coffee date with a friend in the middle of a crazy day, yoga/run dates with people I love, belting showtunes while driving in traffic, even just sitting outside while I work…you get the idea. It wasn’t much but it is amazing how when I started weaving in just a little fun, my productivity actually increased and everything started to feel a little easier.
So, my question for you is, could you be having more fun?
Not sure where to start? I wasn’t either and even if you don’t have time to commit to extracurricular activities, don’t stress it, there are so many ways to enjoy the moment and bring fun into everyday activities.
Begin looking at your daily rituals and lighten them up a bit! Sing in the shower. Dance while getting dressed. Do partner push ups with your SO.
Whatever it is that makes you smile- do a little more of that! Honestly, you can bring play and fun into just about anything. How will you do it this week?
How best can I deal with this situation? If you can learn to ask yourself this question, and adapt your response and approach to the circumstances that are before you, you will be able to accomplish anything.
What separates highly successful people from others is flexibility.
If you get too rigid or attached to your particular approach or point of view you could miss an insight or strategy that could get you to your goal much faster or more efficiently.
The more flexible you are, the more you can learn to perceive obstacles as opportunities to course correct or learn something necessary to fulfilling your purpose. The path is rarely straight or predictable and it is ok to vary your approach as you are getting there.
Thomas Edison was a master at the idea that there is no failure, only feedback. When asked about his failed attempts at creating the light bulb he simply replied, “I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that didn’t work.”
So, take the feedback, change up the approach and maintain your focus on your destination. You will be amazed at what will unfold when you roll with what presents itself on your journey rather than resisting. Here’s to your success!
What is at the end of your rainbow?
What if I told you that there’s a way to make your own luck to get it? Sounds crazy right?! The truth is many people who seem “lucky” have actually built their luck. Sometimes unconsciously through their daily actions without even knowing it. Luckily for us (see what I did there!) we can harness fate in our own hands and achieve our hearts desires.
Many times what we brand as luck is actually just opportunity in disguise! So how can we get lucky? Firstly, don’t shy away from social settings. Put yourself out there to meet new people, introduce these new people to your old friends. Make connections. Since luck is actually just opportunities the more connections you make the more you will have.
Try something new, take a chance and push yourself outside your comfort zone. Whether it be a new class, hobby or project. Push your limits and watch what happens!
Lastly, pay it forward!!! The old saying is true, what goes around comes around. Manifest your positive energy into the world and help others. The universe will return it back.
Spring is my favorite time of year. The days get longer, everything is blooming and it’s the perfect time to reconnect with yourself and grow.
The term spring cleaning has been around for a long time. I like to think about it as getting back to the basics, clearing out all the unnecessary stuff that has built up, and reinstating good positive habits.
Though I believe in cleaning up the mental and emotional body, it is always good to start with the physical first. Usually your physical surroundings are manifestations of what is going on inside. By going through the act of cleaning, organizing and setting up a sanctuary in our home you create a foundation for clearing out the mental and emotional clutter as well.
Start with your immediate space. That area in your home that is set up for personal work. This can be your office, meditative space, workout area, wherever is special and for you. Clean it, organize it, sage it. If you have any house projects that have been put off get them accomplished.
Once you have cleaned up your physical space, pull out those goals you wrote months back. Do a little check in with yourself. What have you done well? What needs to be reevaluated? Now that you have made physical space for yourself reset your intention for those goals you are working towards reaching. What action do you need to take? Set those actions, calendar them in and use whatever resources you have to ensure they will happen.
It’s incredible the shift that can occur when we clean space physically and how that affects our mental and emotional well being.
And if you are then ready to take this clearing work to the next level, hit me up and we will uncover what needs to get cleaned up in your mindset and emotions to get you to those goals.
What do you value?
When digging deep, whether it be to effect change within ourselves, our relationships or our goals it always starts with, what do you value?
But what are they really? They are not only how we determine what is really important to us, they are actually our deepest level programming. Our values determine our beliefs which determine our attitudes which then translates into our behaviors or the actions we take.
What most people don’t realize is that 1. If they don’t know what their values are in an area of their life, or 2. If they have values that are incongruent or in conflict, they may get completely derailed from achieving their desired outcome.
So, what can you do? First, sit down and ask yourself, “what is important to me about….(whatever area of life you are focussing on).” Then when you run out of words, shake it off, and ask yourself again, then again a third time. It may seem repetitive and trust me, there is always more than you think. This is a big part of the process I do with my clients one on one and is a great first step to at least give you a big picture of what your values are. Most people have no idea what their values are in one specific area because we rarely are asked to sit down and think about that. So, give yourself an edge and do this short exercise.
If you are ready to take it further and dig deep into your programming to find out what has gotten in your way so you can finally be free of it, reach out to me. A breakthrough in how you have been running ineffective patterns is the key to unlocking your success
Lately I have been pondering a lot on the notion of responding versus reacting. Much of our time is spent reacting to situations around us, without even realizing that it may not always be in the best interest of our true self. Many times it can make the situation worse, which brokers the question – why would we want to make things worse?
Often we react unconsciously, without thinking. Many times depending on the situation our reaction can be rooted in fear, insecurities and other limiting beliefs. Responding on the other hand is based on a mindful conscious choice that serves your authentic self.
Mindfulness is a great tool that can give your unconscious mind the framework it needs to respond in the best way possible. You can exercise mindfulness by watching your thoughts when something occurs that would normally upset you. Pay close attention to how your mind reacts, and instead of allowing that thought or speech to express, pause. Just because you have an internal reaction does not mean you have to have an external one. Take pause and watch the reaction go away, and space open within yourself to respond how you consciously want to act.
Chocolates, roses, jewelry, perfume, and technology. These are the number one searched items online this past week!
The internet always seems to have the perfect formula to make your partner fall extra in love with you at this time of year.
Valentine’s Day is a beautiful expression of our hearts desire, but it can also be a little overwhelming with all of the choices. For those unsure of what to do, take a step back breathe and think back to what really connects the two of you. What do you LOVE to do together. What BROUGHT you together. How do you want to BE together.
Write it down, your favorite activities, your first date, things you treasure about the other person.
Remember to savor the moment, this is about celebrating the life you and your partner are creating together.
And if you are in a space of manifesting your ideal partner, get really clear about who it is you are attracting! Create an avatar. What are the traits and qualities this person has? What are his/her values? What does your relationship look like? When you get clear about it consciously, your unconscious mind knows what to be looking for and showing you.
Finally, if you have baggage around this whole topic and you want an amazing relationship, you gotta be willing to get rid of your stuff so you can begin to be in or manifest the relationship that you absolutely deserve. Not sure what the next is to do that? Shoot me a note and we will get you set up with a free laser coaching session so you can be 100% clear on what the next step is for you.
Wow friends! I cannot believe it is already February! So much has happened so far this year and it’s a good time to check in. Many of us performed the ritual of setting our New Year’s intentions, how is it going?
If you followed the process of making space, finding your purpose and setting your goal it’s a good time to check in with yourself. What have you accomplished? What has maybe gotten in your way? What do you need to do to take some massive action towards it?!
These regular monthly check ins will help keep you on track. When we talk about the 5 keys to success at our NLP trainings, we mention having sensory acuity or an awareness as you are on your path. Are you making progress or is it time to course correct? One of the best ways to do this is to take inventory and track your forward momentum and progress… write that stuff down!
One of my favorite tools for goal setting is the smart goal model. These goals are specific, measurable, achievable, resourced and toward what you want. (Remember in a previous Tuesday Tip we mentioned we gotta keep those goals to something you enjoy).
If you followed this paradigm you should be able to measure your results now. Are you achieving your milestones? If not is it time to reevaluate the goal, or take different action. Remember, you are in charge of the process.
The other important key is SUPPORT and ACCOUNTABILITY. We have something pretty exciting in the works at PKNY Health that may be exactly what you need. Stay tuned for a big announcement next week and in the meantime, reach out to me but clicking the link in the bio to connect for a discovery session.
Your only investment is your time so what is your success worth to you?
Can I really empower you? I speak a lot about empowerment. My Instagram handle says I am an empowerment coach.
But what does that really mean?
Empowerment is not something I can give you. I won’t be able to meet with you and leave you with the gift of empowerment.
However, I can help guide you to break down the barriers that are holding you back from experiencing your true self, from stepping into the life you deserve with empowerment.
You see, empowerment comes from within. It is something that lies innately within all of us. Over the years society, cultural beliefs and the world around us slowly shroud us with limiting beliefs about ourselves. Our filter of ourselves and our world slowly changes, it can dim the light we all have inside.
All I do is help pull apart those layers, and allow your light to shine. I help you reveal your true self and that is where empowerment is born.
The confidence to live your life authentic to your values. The strength to take control of your path, and to set and keep the goals you deserve.
That is living an empowered life. Your time is now.
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